7 Terrible Mistakes Some People Make In Marriage

Marriage is difficult for many today, many are enduring their marriage, but
there are still a lot who are by all standards enjoying their Marriage. 

Though some are quick to blame in-laws, jobs, spouses, etc for the state of
their Marriage. Such could be true, but there are many who make terrible
mistakes that hurts their Marriage greatly. 

Seven of those mistakes are exposed below…

1) RUNNING MARRIAGE WITHOUT
GOD 
Psalm 127:1-2
[1] Except the Lord build the house, they labour in
vain that build it: except the Lord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in
vain.
[2] It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the
bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep.

2) ENTERING
MARRIAGE THROUGH NEGATIVE DOORS
Psalm 11:1-3 KJV
[1] In the Lord put I
my trust: how say ye to my soul, Flee as a bird to your mountain?
[2] For,
lo, the wicked bend their bow, they make ready their arrow upon the string, that
they may privily shoot at the upright in heart.
[3] If the foundations be
destroyed, what can the righteous do?

EXAMPLES OF NEGATIVE DOORS
Pregnancy door
Cohabitation
door
Sinful Wedding Door
Falsehood Door
Diabolical door
Love Charm
Door

3) GOING INTO MARRIAGE CLUELESS
Proverbs 3:19-20
[19]
The Lord by wisdom hath founded the earth; by understanding hath he established
the heavens.
[20] By his knowledge the depths are broken up, and the clouds
drop down the dew.
— lack of wisdom is the greatest singular killer of
marriage.
— If you are not well equipped to build a marriage, you will end up
wrecking a home.

4) ALLOWING THIRD PARTIES TO RULE IN THEIR
MARRIAGES 
Genesis 2:24 KJV
Therefore shall a man leave his father and
his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

WHO ARE THIRD PARTIES?

In-laws
Siblings
Parents
Children
Friends
Colleagues

5)
GOING INTO MARRIAGE WITH FUNDAMENTAL CHARACTER FLAWS
Proverbs 11:29
KJV
[29] He that troubleth his own house shall inherit the wind: and the fool
shall be servant to the wise of heart.

6) GOING INTO S*XUAL
RELATIONSHIP OUTSIDE MARRIAGE 
Proverbs 6:32-33 KJV
[32] But whoso
committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it
destroyeth his own soul.
[33] A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his
reproach shall not be wiped away.

7) NOT GIVING ROOM FOR COUPLE’S
TIME 
Song of Songs 7:11 KJV
Come, my beloved, let us go forth into
the field; let us lodge in the villages.
~ The more time you spend with each
other, the better both of you will understand each other.
~ On the other
hand, the more you spend time away from each other, the more the odds of
drifting away or falling into someone else’s arms.
~ Intimacy is impossible
if you are always apart.

TYPES OF “COUPLES’ TIME” IN
MARRIAGE
i. TIME TOTALLY SEPARATE (TTS): Time spent totally separate
apart from each other,away from ones spouse is the TTS of every married
couple.
— time spent at work,in different rooms,traffic or with other people
etc

ii. TIME TOGETHER ALONE (TTA): When you are together but doing
different things,
— reading different books,
— chatting with other people
on the internet,
— taking care of Children etc

iii. TIME TOGETHER
INTIMATE (TTI):
— Time spent together with attention on each other,
—
talking about each other’s plans, visions, hope, fear, belief etc
— time
spent together cuddling, kissing, hugging, gazing into each others eyes, sharing
love, talking deeply, playing together, flirting, touching romantically and
making love.

NOTE THIS
— The higher the TTS the danger for the
Marriage.
— couples with very high TTI will have very fulfilling
marriage.

Sources: Hero’s
Lodge