married at a very young age. Today, after 55 years of marriage their
love is still sizzling as if they just got newly married.
In this interview, they told Daily Sun Vivian Onyebukwa what makes their
marriage tick. They also advised other couples on what it takes to
achieve a long lasting marriage.
Can you recall the first day you met your wife?
secondary school. She came to Egbe where I was attending Titcombe
College, now in Kogi State, when there was an advertisement for a
also a complete gentleman. I saw a bright future in him. He was a
cherished him. However maybe he was thinking along the same line in his
mind. I wouldn’t know. So during the holidays, he came to Ilaorangun in
Osun State where both of us come from, for a holiday. In those days,
during holidays, boys used to move around looking for girlfriends. One
day he came to my house with a group of friends. They were four in
number. And I liked the way they dressed. They were all dressed in
white. They came to my house and we were two then – my late sister and
myself, so one wouldn’t know whom they really wanted. When I saw him, I
remembered the first time I saw him at Egbe. To God be the glory, that
we were able to get married. He didn’t propose formally by telling me he
wanted to marry me. But he just kept coming and as he was coming, other
suitors were running away and we were able to form a bond by the grace
but there was just a little religious problem. He was a Muslim and I was
a Christian, but it was resolved amicably.
the beginning I wasn’t interested in Mus- lim religion then. There was a
church near my house, which I used to attend, and later I became a
school. After that, he went to work with Electrical Corporation of
Nigeria (ECN) who sent him to the United States of America (USA) for
training. I really cherished our early days in marriage, we were young
then. He bought a bicycle and with this bicycle, he would take me to
school first even with my pregnancy because I was a teacher then too,
before going to his own school. We continued like that until God
continued to elevate us. We are not too comfortable now, but we are not
lacking. I am giving glory to God for that.
mother-in-law was a very nice woman. She cared for me and my child. I
loved and cherished her till her last day on earth. When my husband came
back from America after his training, he was transferred to Akure and
after some time, I was taken back to Lagos. Then I already had two
children and they were left with my parents-in-law, while I was alone in
Lagos, and because I was alone in Lagos, men were approaching me for
marriage, not knowing that I was already married. So I told my husband
to come and take me back. When we first came to Lagos, for almost three
months, I was with my sister, late Mrs. Dupe Ojo, in her house and my
husband was living with his friend, Chief Bisi Akande, because of
was helped in the school by the late Mr. and Mrs. Tunji Fajeyi. Also, it
was through the help of Chief Bisi Akande, late Pa Oyebanji, and Pa
Braimoh, that we were able to secure a mini flat where we lived for 22
years. We raised all our children there. It was Pa Braimoh that was
living in the house and three of them were friends. So I will continue
to appreciate what God has done for me through them. The couples of
nowadays would not want to endure to make a success.
particularly one reason I like her. She is loving and has been so since I
first met her.
discuss and find a solution to the problem. The person that offends the
other apologises. It is I who use to flare up but after some time, I
would calm down and he would apologise and it ends there.
So what I do is that I would start keeping quiet when I discover that
she is angry, and after some time I would talk to her.
first born, Yemi Odetayo, studied Fine and Applied Arts at Yaba College
of Technology, Lagos (YABATECH), and he came out with upper grade and
collected so many awards on his graduation day. That made me to sit in
the congregation of President Muhammad Buhari and Former President
Ibrahim Badamosi Babangida then. I was happy to be seated among
Presidents because of my son’s achievement. Our children are brilliant
and they all came out with first grades. By the grace of God,
at times make us sleep separately. Like one time when he was sick, I
moved into another room.
doing. Also, they should endure and consider each other’s shortcomings.
More so, they should be able to identify what makes each other unhappy
and avoid it.
respect them and take care of their homes. They should also give their
husbands good food and as at when due.