What does my woman want? What is she thinking? Some men seem perplexed
by the complexities of women’s “spaghetti” minds. You’ve heard that
term, right? Men’s minds are like waffles; compartmentalizing thoughts
into boxes. Women’s minds are like spaghetti; with thoughts connecting
all over the place.
I want to help the guys out today; give you a bit of insight into your woman’s mind. What is it she truly craves from you?
sometimes women can make it hard for you; we expect you to pick up on
our cues and read our minds. It’s not fair and I get it. So, let me help
you out today with things your woman loves.
1. Let’s pray!
Or another way to phrase it: “How can I
be praying for you?” More than anything in this world, a good wife
desires a husband that leads the family in godliness. Who sets the
example for righteousness. Who serves as the priest of the family.
have shown that couples who pray together and read the Bible regularly
are overall more satisfied and less likely to get divorced. Which is why
setting Christ at the center of your family is vital to a healthy
So, dear men, take the initiative to be the prayer
warrior in your family. To lead in reading the Bible, going to church,
and serving others. It’s so important for a good wife that she hear you
offer prayer. To suggest prayer when things are not smooth, or you have a
tough decision to make as a family. This will be one of the most
important phrases you could ever utter in your marriage if you are truly
married to a good woman.
2. How can I help you?
Nothing says romance like serving!
Whether your wife is in the workforce, a stay-at-home mum, or a bit of
both, there is much to do around the house. Offering to make dinner one
night, or put your kids to bed, or to do the grocery shopping for the
week goes a long way to make your wife feel more loved.
3. I love you.
many, these three words are perhaps our favorite. As you desire
respect, we desire love. And when we don’t hear these words, our hearts
break. We feel lonely. Forgotten.
Don’t neglect the power of
these words. Furthermore, don’t forget to use them frequently with your
wife. Let her know she is loved by you. Don’t stop there, either. Let
your actions show her that she is the apple of your eye. When your wife
feels loved, she feels safe. And when she feels safe, she is freed up to
be open and vulnerable with you.
4. I know you’re trying.
wife could be feeling undervalued or overlooked at work. She might feel
like she doesn’t have much purpose among the dirty dishes, clothes,
etc. Perhaps there’s some conflict among a friend or family member that
is causing a lot of stress. Whatever difficulty she may be going
through, you’re someone she’s going to turn to. And when she does, be
there for her.
She doesn’t need someone to fix it it for her. Or
make suggestions. Not quite yet, anyway. She may want those things but
it’s hard to accept help unless she feels supported first.
doing anything, just say the words. Empathize. Your wife wants to feel
like she’s not alone or crazy in her difficulty. Acknowledge her
emotions and feel the trial with her. If you can do this, she will be
much more open to receiving the help you want to offer.
5. I got you.
being there and letting your wife know that you have her back in the
midst of her ups and downs is incredibly valuable. In this chaotic world
that can beat us down, sometimes it’s nice to know you’re not alone.
Which is why letting your wife know that you got her back – that you are
right by her side, through thick and thin – is such a comforting
6. You’re beautiful.
I’m not gonna lie –
it’s tough out there. Women are often left to feel not pretty enough,
valued enough, good enough, etc. It’s why comparison and gossip is
rampant in our gender.
When she’s making coffee in her messy
pj’s, tell her she’s beautiful. When she’s covered in spit-up and
wrangling your baby, tell her she’s beautiful. When she gets all dolled
up for a long-anticipated date night, tell her she’s beautiful. If she
feels beautiful in your eyes, she’ll feel much more confident and
beautiful in this world.
7. Let’s go.
Surprises. Date nights. Extending your hand out to her and taking her by
your side for a fun time alone is exciting! Remember there was a time
when it was just the two of you. When you would do whatever you wanted,
whenever you wanted. Memories were created!
Nobody wants the
romance to die. Don’t underestimate the power of a surprise, romantic
date. So tell her to throw on a dress and say, “let’s go!” once in a
8. Your dreams matter to me.
Our dreams matter
to all of us – men and women – and it’s a dream that makes the heart
race with excitement! Find out what your wife’s dreams are and help her
find a way to flourish in them.
I can’t tell you what it means to
me that my husband has supported my passion for writing. He has
basically kicked me out of the house on his days off and taken care of
our newborn so that I could work on my book at a coffee shop. Those
moments have made me feel so loved!
Take up your wife’s dream as
your own; let her know that you believe in her and that you want to help
her flourish in that dream.
9. Life is good with you.
much more needs to be said about this phrase. A good wife is a gift
from God and being married to her a blessing. Let her know that you
enjoy her and your life together!
[written by Mrs. Brittany Rust, a female pastor]